There was a time when all I was was a dreamer.
I had a big vision for my life. A big vision for my business. I could see the woman I desired to become and the life I wanted to create. But underneath that vision was a voice filled with doubt. Am I really capable of this? Do I actually have what it takes? Am I smart enough? Confident enough? Worthy enough?
I was still taking action. I was doing the things I thought I needed to do. But I didn’t realize that I was trying to create a new life while still making many of my choices from an old version of myself.
Eventually, I became frustrated. I wasn’t seeing the results I wanted, and I couldn’t understand why. Until I had to get honest with myself.
I wasn’t consistently making the choices the woman capable of creating that vision would make. I was inconsistent. I was afraid to share my story. I was afraid to be seen and judged. I doubted whether I had the capacity to hold the vision I had been asking for and become the woman it required me to be.
I wanted the life. I wanted the expansion. I wanted to become her. But I was still practicing an identity that didn’t fully believe she was possible.
And that was the moment I began to notice the gap between the identity I desired and the identity I was practicing.
Something had to change.
From Remembering Her to Living as Her
That’s how the idea for Queen Oil was born.
I wanted to create an oil with supportive plant allies that could help me pour into myself, reconnect with my worth and power, and return to my Queen energy.
So I created her, and then I began anointing myself daily.
At first, I thought I was just creating a spiritual ritual that would help me feel more connected to myself. But something deeper began happening. I started remembering who I was beneath all the conditioning, doubt, fear, and stories I had collected about myself.
I remembered that I was worthy. I remembered that I was capable. I remembered that the vision I carried wasn’t too big for me.
But then came the question that changed everything: Okay, now that I remember, how do I actually live as her?
Remembering who you are is powerful, but eventually, remembering isn’t enough. There comes a point when you have to ask:
What choices is she making? What actions is she taking? How does she handle different situations? How does she speak to herself? How does she move through the world? Even something as simple as: How does she dress?
This is where I began to understand embodiment. Embodiment is the practice of allowing the identity you’ve consciously chosen to begin influencing the way you actually live.
And my daily anointing ritual became one of the ways I practiced that return. It gave me a sacred pause in the middle of everyday life, a moment to stop, focus my attention, pour into myself, and remember who I was beneath all the roles I was carrying.
Over time, I began to realize that I wasn’t only applying oil to my skin. I was returning to myself. That realization transformed the way I understood anointing. Because anointing became more than a ritual I performed.
It became an embodiment practice, a sacred practice that helped me intentionally return to the Queen Identity I was choosing to embody.
And that is what I want to explore with you here.
Because you don’t need another practice that asks you to become someone completely new. You need a practice that helps you remember who you are choosing to be and then gives you a moment to practice being her.
I don’t anoint myself because I am becoming someone new. I anoint myself to remember who I am choosing to be.
I Am the Altar
My relationship with anointing actually began long before I understood it as an embodiment practice.
There was a time when I had lost myself in motherhood and found my way back to myself through nature and connecting with plants, both physically and spiritually. As I continued along that journey, I became deeply fascinated by herbal magic.
I loved the idea that we could work with plants not only to support our physical well-being, but also intentionally and spiritually to create ritual, shift energy, and support change in our lives. That curiosity eventually led me to ritual and anointing oils.
At first, I understood anointing as a way to direct energy and intention toward an outcome. I primarily used anointing oils as part of spells and other spiritual rituals. I would use a protection oil to anoint my door for home protection. I would anoint a candle with a money-drawing oil before a prosperity spell. I would use an all-purpose anointing oil to consecrate and bless crystals, my altar, floor washes, candles, and other ritual tools. At that point in my practice, anointing was a smaller step within a larger ritual. But I loved how simple it was.
The oil was already prepared with intention, so I could take a moment to anoint an object, space, or ritual tool and consciously direct my energy toward what I wanted to protect, bless, attract, or cultivate. It was an easy way to bring a little bit of magic into my everyday life.
As I continued learning about herbal magic and anointing oils, I discovered something that began to change the way I understood this practice: I could anoint myself, too. So I began exploring. I anointed myself and my family for protection. I anointed my third eye when I wanted to deepen my connection to my intuition. I began anointing myself before meditation as a way to connect more deeply with myself and Spirit.
And the more I practiced, the more I realized something surprising: Anointing myself was my favorite way to use anointing oils. I slowly began using them less to direct intention toward things outside of me and more as a way to pour intention into myself. Something shifted. The ritual wasn’t just happening around me anymore. I was becoming part of the ritual. My body became part of the sacred practice. And eventually, I began to understand anointing myself through the same energetic lens that had drawn me to herbal magic in the first place.
I believe everything carries energy, and that our intention gives direction to the energy we are working with. So when I anoint myself, I am bringing together the energetic qualities of the plant allies in the oil, my own intention, and my own energy, and consciously directing them toward what I want to cultivate within myself. That felt like a spell to me. Not because I was waiting for the oil to do something to me, but because I was intentionally participating in the process of cultivating something within me.
The oil became part of the energetic language. My intention became the direction. My body became the altar. And when I realized that, something in me immediately felt at home. It wasn’t a new idea I had to convince myself to believe. It felt like a truth that resonated so deeply on a soul level that it had been waiting for me to remember. I am the altar.
To me, that means recognizing myself as sacred. It means knowing that my body, my energy, my attention, my intentions, and my inner world are worthy of devotion. It means recognizing myself as a vessel for my own transformation and as a point of connection to Source.
That realization began to change the way I related to myself. Because when you begin seeing yourself as sacred, you begin to treat yourself differently. You become more intentional about what you pour into yourself. You become more aware of where your attention is going. You begin creating space to listen to yourself instead of constantly reacting to everything around you.
For me, this mattered deeply because I am not just one thing. I’m a mother. A partner. A business owner. A friend. An oldest daughter. And like so many women, I can become so focused on pouring outward that I forget to pour inward until I’m exhausted or my body forces me to slow down.
My anointing ritual became a pause in the middle of all of that. A moment where I could focus on me. My dreams. My goals. My aspirations. My becoming. It became a small but powerful reminder that even in the midst of everything I was carrying, I was still choosing myself. I was still devoted to my vision. I was still here. And every time I anointed myself, I was building upon that intention.
I began to see my anointing ritual almost like a spell I was continually building. Each time I anointed myself, I brought the energy of the oil, my intention, my attention, and my own energy together again. Not as a one-time transformation, but as a repeated practice of cultivating what I wanted to experience and embody within myself.
Over time, I realized that anointing had become so much more than a tool I used in herbal magic. It had become a way to come home to myself. A way to remember who I was beneath the conditioning, expectations, roles, and stories I had accumulated. A way to remember that I am worthy of my own attention. And ultimately, a way to cultivate a deeper, stronger, more loving relationship with myself.
That realization became a turning point in my spiritual practice and eventually, it became part of the purpose behind why I share anointing with other women. Because what if your spiritual practice wasn’t only about changing the energy around you? What if it could also become a way of intentionally changing the way you relate to yourself? What if you stopped looking outside of yourself for the altar and realized you were the altar all along?
Once I began to understand myself as the altar, I started seeing ritual differently, too. I began to understand that ritual wasn’t just something I was doing. It was creating a sacred container for my intention, my attention, my energy, and my relationship with myself. And that is where my understanding of anointing began to move from ritual into embodiment.
Ritual Gives Intention a Place to Land
Once I began to understand myself as the altar, I started seeing ritual differently, too. To me, ritual isn't something you do once and check off your list; it's something you return to. Again and again.
I see ritual as a form of self-care because you're intentionally taking time out of your day to pour into yourself. You're creating something you can look forward to. Something that brings you joy, presence, connection, or meaning.
There is something powerful about returning to the same practice over and over again. Because an intention can live entirely inside your mind. You can think about the woman you want to become. You can write about her in your journal. You can say affirmations and visualize.
But ritual gives that intention somewhere to land. It takes something that exists internally and gives it a physical expression. It creates an experience around your intention. And that matters because we aren't just minds walking around having thoughts; we are embodied beings.
When I anoint myself, I am physically participating in the intention I am choosing. I'm touching my skin. I'm smelling the botanical blend. I'm slowing down. I'm speaking words over myself. I'm focusing my attention. I'm feeling into the energy I want to cultivate. The invisible becomes tangible.
And suddenly, my intention isn't just something I'm thinking about. I'm experiencing it.
The Power of the Pause
Think about how easy it is to move through your day on autopilot. You wake up, check your phone, answer the message. You take care of the kids, go to work, handle the next thing. And the next. And the next.
Before you know it, the day is over, and you haven't really stopped long enough to ask yourself: How am I choosing to show up today?
This is one of the reasons ritual has become so meaningful to me. It interrupts autopilot. It gives me a pause. And that pause reminds me: I matter, too. I get to choose myself. I get to redirect my attention. I get to decide what energy I want to cultivate. I get to participate consciously in the life I'm creating.
Because intention, to me, is focused attention on what you want to do or cultivate in your life. And ritual gives that focused attention somewhere to go. It gives me an anchor I can return to throughout my day. Instead of unconsciously moving through life and reacting to whatever happens next, ritual reminds me that I am a co-creator of my life.
I have the power to choose its direction.
The Alchemy of Intention, Ritual & Embodiment
This is where I began to see the deeper alchemy happening within my anointing practice. For me, there are several elements coming together:
The Mental — Intention
First, I have to decide what I'm choosing. What do I want to cultivate? Who am I choosing to be? What energy do I want to carry? What identity am I practicing? My intention gives the practice direction.
The Physical — Ritual
Then I give that intention somewhere to live physically. This is where anointing becomes so powerful for me. I'm not just thinking about my desired identity. I'm physically touching my body with the oil. I'm pausing, speaking my words, and breathing. I'm bringing my attention into my body. I'm creating a tangible experience around something that began as an internal desire. I'm rooting the intention into my physical experience.
The Energetic — Emotion
And then there is the energy and feeling I bring into the practice. How does it feel to be her? How does it feel to trust myself? How does it feel to move through the world as a woman who knows her worth? How does it feel to be sovereign? How does it feel to be visible? How does it feel to believe that I am capable of holding the vision I've been given? The feeling isn't something I have to manufacture perfectly. It's something I practice cultivating. And as I repeatedly bring my attention, intention, physical ritual, and emotional energy together, I begin creating a different relationship with the identity I'm choosing.
This is where the practice begins to crystallize. Not because one ritual magically transforms you overnight, but because each return gives you another opportunity to reinforce the woman you're choosing to be. Then that identity begins to influence how you move through your life.
From Ritual Into Embodiment
This is the part that matters most to me, because embodiment isn't achieving your desired identity once. It's not having one really powerful ritual where you feel confident, sovereign, magnetic, or deeply connected to yourself and then never thinking about it again.
Embodiment is carrying that identity into your choices again and again and again. For me, this has shown up in surprisingly ordinary moments. It's anointing myself when I don't feel motivated to work and choosing to follow through anyway. It's using my ritual to help me make the transition from mom to CEO. It's remembering the energy I'm cultivating and asking myself how she would choose to move through the day. It's following through on the things I said I was going to do. It's allowing myself to be seen when an older version of me wants to hide. It's telling my story even when I'm afraid of what people might think. It's choosing the action that aligns with the woman I say I am becoming.
This is why I don't see anointing as just a ritual that happens at the beginning of my day. The ritual is the doorway. It creates the moment where I remember. It gives my intention a physical anchor. It helps me connect with the energy I'm choosing. But then I have to walk through that doorway. I have to make the choice. I have to take the action. I have to practice being her. The ritual is the doorway, but embodiment is the transformation.
And this is where something else becomes incredibly important: What exactly am I choosing to embody? Because if I'm going to consciously choose my identity, I need more than a vague feeling of "I want to become her." I need to know who she is. I need language for the identity I'm choosing. I need declarations I can speak over myself. I need reminders of the woman I'm practicing being.
And that's where my Queen Codes come in.
The Woman You're Choosing to Be
Throughout this blog, I've talked about the woman I'm choosing to become. But who is her?
When I talk about a Queen Identity, I don't mean a woman who is perfect, confident all the time, or has it all together. The Queen isn't a perfect image. She's an identity you consciously choose and practice.
To me, the Queen is a woman who knows her worth because she chooses herself again and again and again. She remembers who she is and is devoted to her. She knows she is sovereign. She trusts herself and leads herself. She has a vision for her life and doesn't apologize for it. She has the courage to actualize her goals. She respects herself. She loves herself. She allows herself to be seen and take up space because she knows her value and what she has to offer the world. She doesn't need to compete because she knows there is room for everyone. And she uplifts other Queens along the way. She chooses who she is intentionally.
That is what I mean when I talk about embodying your Queen Identity. Once I understood that embodiment was about consciously living from an identity, I began to realize that I also needed to become conscious of something else: What did I believe about myself?
The Stories We Practice Becoming
To me, self-concept is what you believe to be true about yourself. It's made up of the thoughts, assumptions, and stories you carry about who you believe you are. Some of those beliefs come from within us. Others are shaped by society, our families, our relationships, and the experiences we've had.
And whether we realize it or not, those beliefs influence the way we move through our lives. They influence how we interpret situations. How we respond. What we expect. What we attempt. What we avoid. What we tolerate. And ultimately, the choices we make.
If you believe you're inconsistent, you may begin making choices that reinforce inconsistency. You negotiate with yourself. You don't follow through. You procrastinate. You give yourself permission to quit. Leading to the pattern reinforcing the original belief: "See? I told you I'm inconsistent." It becomes a cycle. Assumption, Identity, Choice, Behavior, Reinforcement.
But the beautiful thing is that once you become conscious of the cycle, you can begin choosing differently. You can begin practicing a different assumption. Instead of: "I'm someone who can't follow through," you might begin choosing: "I am a woman who keeps her word to herself." And then you practice that identity through your choices. You follow through even when you don't feel like it. You keep promises to yourself. You practice consistency. And eventually, you have new evidence to draw from: "I can trust myself."
This isn't about pretending you're already perfect. It's about consciously choosing the identity you want to practice and then giving yourself opportunities to live from it.
I Had to Become Comfortable Being Seen
I experienced this personally with visibility. For a long time, I actually prided myself on being a private person. But underneath that identity was a lot of protection. I was protecting myself from judgment and criticism. That protection eventually became fear of being seen.
I wouldn't share my story even when I knew it might help someone. I'd get invited to speak on podcasts and make excuses about why I couldn't. I would hide behind more educational content instead of sharing the personal stories and experiences that were actually at the heart of why I was doing this work.
And meanwhile, I had this big, grand vision for my life and the way I wanted to be of service. Eventually, I had to admit that the two weren't compatible. I couldn't have the vision I wanted while continuing to let fear make every decision for me. So I began telling myself: It is safe to be seen. And then I practiced it. I shared more of my story. I shared more of my thoughts. I allowed myself to be visible even when there was still a part of me that felt afraid.
I noticed something had changed. I didn't become a completely different person overnight, but I stopped allowing fear to be the one making every decision. The vision became greater than the fear.
Today, I'm not afraid of being seen in the same way I once was. In fact, I'm excited to share my stories because I believe stories are medicine. They can remind another woman that she's not alone, empower her, and help her remember something within herself. That experience taught me something important: The identity we practice becomes visible through the choices we make.
Queen Codes: Giving Your Chosen Identity Language
And this is where Queen Codes came into the picture for me. If I am consciously choosing who I want to be, I need language for that identity. I need words that remind me. Words that anchor me. Words that I can return to when an old story starts trying to lead again.
To me, a Queen Code is an identity anchor. It's a declaration I can pour into the woman I am choosing to be. Queen Codes aren't about saying something beautiful and hoping it magically becomes true. They're about intentionally choosing the identity you're practicing.
Instead of: "Someday I'll become confident." You might declare: "I allow myself to be seen." Instead of: "I hope I stop abandoning myself." You might declare: "I choose myself."
The words give your intention language. And when I speak a Queen Code while anointing myself, I'm not just saying words. I'm giving language to my intention and reminding myself who I am choosing to be.
The oil doesn't choose for me. The Queen Code doesn't choose for me. The ritual doesn't choose for me. They help me bring my attention and energy back to the intention and identity I've consciously chosen. I am still the one choosing. That, to me, is sovereignty.
The Queen Code Becomes the Choice
One of my favorite Queen Codes is: I choose who I am, and I allow her to lead.
When I say "I choose who I am," I'm reminding myself that I get to participate in choosing who I am. Not society. Not my family. Not my friends. Not the expectations placed upon me. Me. It reminds me of sovereignty, which is what the Queen archetype represents to me.
And then comes: "I allow her to lead."
Because choosing an identity is only the beginning. I have to let that identity influence how I move through my life. What does she choose when she's afraid? What does she choose when she doesn't feel motivated? What does she choose when she needs to make a difficult decision? What does she choose when she's tempted to abandon a promise she's made to herself?
If I have an opportunity to hide, she chooses to be seen despite the fear. If I don't feel motivated to do the work, she chooses to follow through because it matters to her. If she needs to make a difficult decision, she trusts herself and allows her intuition to guide her. If she's tempted to abandon herself, she stays.
This is where the Queen Code becomes embodied. Because the words aren't the embodiment, the choice is. A Queen Code reminds me of who I am choosing to be, but I embody that code when I make the choice that aligns with her.
The Practice of Becoming
Your self-concept isn't changed because you said one beautiful sentence once. It's cultivated through the choices you make. Every time you make a choice that aligns with the woman you're choosing to be, you are embodying her.
And this is why Queen Codes and anointing belong together for me. The Queen Code gives language to the identity I'm choosing. The anointing ritual gives me a physical and energetic way to connect with that intention. Then I carry it with me into my day. Into my decisions. Into my habits. Into the moments when the old identity wants to take the lead.
The ritual reminds me. The Code gives me language. And then I choose. Again. And again. And again. That is the practice of becoming her.
A Simple Anointing as Embodiment Practice
There isn't just one way to anoint.
Anointing is a personal practice, and for me, it has become something deeply intuitive. You don't need to know exactly what you're doing before you begin, and you certainly don't need to do it perfectly.
Start where you are. Trust your intuition to guide you. The most important part isn't creating the "perfect" ritual. It's creating a moment where you intentionally pause, connect with yourself, and choose the energy and identity you want to cultivate.
My own practice is actually quite simple. I begin by taking a few deep breaths to center myself. Then I shake my bottle of anointing oil while focusing on my intention. I think about what I'm choosing to cultivate and the woman I'm choosing to be. Then I anoint wherever I feel called that day: my heart, wrists, temples, or somewhere else.
While I anoint myself, I speak my Queen Code three times. Sometimes the words are exactly what I need to hear that day. Sometimes I let myself really feel into them. And sometimes I just allow the words to remind me of what I've already chosen.
Then I take a few more deep breaths, and I go about my day. That's it. It doesn't have to take twenty minutes or be elaborate.
The power is in the intention and the relationship you create with the practice. The botanical blend becomes a companion to the energy I'm cultivating, while the ritual gives me a tangible way to connect with my intention and bring my attention back to myself. And if you're not sure what to focus on, you can ask yourself: Who am I choosing to be? What energy am I choosing to cultivate? What would the Queen choose?
Then let the answer guide your ritual. And more importantly, let it guide your choices. Because your ritual isn't where the practice ends. Don't stop at the altar. Carry it into your day, and make aligned choices. If you've chosen self-trust, practice trusting yourself. If you've chosen visibility, let yourself be seen. If you've chosen sovereignty, make the decision that feels true to you. If you've chosen self-devotion, keep the promise you made to yourself. If you've chosen courage, take the step even if your heart is beating a little faster. This is where your intention becomes embodied. This is where the woman you're choosing to be becomes more than an idea. She becomes someone you practice being.
You Are the Altar
This is the most important thing I want you to take away from everything I've shared: You are the altar. You don't have to become someone completely new before you are worthy of devotion. You don't have to have your life figured out. You don't have to embody your Queen Identity perfectly. Just be willing to return. Return to yourself. Return to your intention. Return to the woman you're choosing to be. And then choose her again. And again. And again.
Because embodiment isn't about getting it right every single time. It's about creating a relationship with yourself strong enough that when you lose your way, you know how to come home.
For me, anointing has become one of those ways. It is a sacred practice that helps me come home to myself and intentionally return to my Queen Identity. And maybe it can become that for you, too.
Ready to Begin Your Own Sacred Anointing Practice?
If you're feeling called to explore anointing as an embodiment practice, I'd love to invite you into the world I've created at Sacred Bloom Botanicals.
I create handcrafted anointing oils and herbal ritual tools for spiritually curious women who are ready to stop abandoning themselves, choose themselves, and intentionally embody the woman they're becoming. Each botanical blend is created with a specific intention in mind, giving you a plant ally to accompany you as you cultivate the energy, identity, and qualities you want to embody.
Whether you're looking to deepen your self-love, expand your capacity, trust your intuition, step into your Queen Energy, protect your space, or create a sacred moment to return to yourself, there is an oil waiting to support your practice.
Your transformation doesn't come from the bottle. It comes from you. The oil is a companion. A reminder. A tangible way to pause, anoint, and return. Explore the anointing oils and find the plant ally that speaks to the woman you're choosing to be.
Take a breath. Pause. Anoint. Speak your words. Feel into the woman you're choosing. And then step into your day. Let her lead.
Because you aren't anointing yourself because you're becoming someone new. You anoint yourself to remember who you are choosing to be.